Exploring the Connection Between Truth and Love: A Deep Dive into Authentic Relationships
Happy Wednesday, World!
I've been thinking recently about why I am seeing, hearing, and experiencing such angst and discomfort in relationships. As I did some soul-searching, I realized that for any relationship to succeed, you need one ingredient: solid communication. Yet, if that is the key, why do we have so many failed relationships? Below is my reasoning.
Miscommunication between two people is incredibly common because they translate their feelings into words every time someone speaks. Then, the other person has to interpret those words through the filter of their own current feelings and past emotional history.
Since we communicate through perception filters, it takes a certain degree of calmness and emotional maturity between two people to ask each other, “What do you mean by this?” or “Can you tell me more?” to understand what is being said.
Communication without patience is likely to turn into conflict. Communication with patience is likely to lead to a deeper connection.
The power of #communication in a relationship cannot be overstated. It is the bedrock of your union and its savior during challenging moments. Communication is how you keep each other informed regarding your individual truths and any changes that have occurred in your needs.
Especially at the beginning of a relationship, you are better off communicating frequently and erring on the side of overcommunicating until you both develop a better understanding of each other. With openness and time, you will learn more about each other’s longstanding preferences. Even if you have been together for decades, you will not be able to read each other’s minds, and since you are both beings of change, there will still be new opinions, ideas, and stories to share with each other. Listening to each other with a selfless mindset—one where you let go of your own view for a moment so that you can compassionately examine your partner’s view—will help you both build a much deeper understanding of how you each experience things.
If you can take turns practicing selfless #listening, it will help both of you feel that your reality is being heard. Healthy modes of communication, based on compassionate honesty and selfless listening, create a deeper level of #respect between the two of you. Even though perspectives may be cloudy because of everything each of you has gone through in the past, there is still a lot of value in honoring the fact that even a cloudy perspective can have real implications for how you feel.
All humans want to be seen. If you can give that gift to your partner, it will build an incredible amount of trust and unity.
The type of communication that brings two people close together cannot occur without #honesty. It is easy to fall into cycles of white lies as a means of people-pleasing or avoiding conflict, but even small lies create distance. To reach deeper levels of love and unity, you have to take the path of honesty with yourself and those around you.
If you truly want to be with someone, it means there is no more space for running or lying. And that is why, dear readers - I have come to learn that truth is truly the synonym for love!
Always remember that there is only one you, and that is your magic!
XOXO,
Coach Ms.K
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