two Deep thoughts - YET these could be fun to explore.
Happy Sunday, #Ladies!
Healing is a big word, and I wanted to address it today.
Personally, I have a lot to heal from, and much of that stems from my recovery journey. I put myself through a ton of unnecessary crap over the last few years - but the past is the past, and #nowisallthereeveris. I have accepted my past, and am making more peace with it every single day.
Here's the thing. #Healing does not have to be from this grand event for us to feel pain. Something significant like a breakup, or the loss of a loved one, of course, will take a lot of time to heal (for me, it does) - and only your soul will know when it can move on, beautiful. So listen to your heart, and know that healing is a lifelong journey and there is no need to rush it. #bekindtoyourself
Some events can take a lot of time to figure out and process, and that varies for all of us, too. I know people who can move on from a breakup in 24-hours, while others need months/years to process/heal fully. No two humans are the same, therefore there is no simple answer to this question ever - BUT, remember that you are human and doing the best with what you can in every given moment. Let that sink in one more time. You are not racing with anyone, you only have to answer to your beautiful self. #youaredoingthebestyoucanatthisgivenmoment
I have two short thoughts on healing - especially as I am doing the same now.
Sometimes, we don't even realize that something caused us pain - or not in the traditional sense. For example, in August '22, I suffered a severe back injury and have been recovering since. Reflecting now, it has been more of a mental journey than a physical journey. I could not accept the situation, and instead of embracing it much earlier so I could focus on the solutions - I dwelled in my own thoughts and felt the world 'I knew' had come to an end. The opposite of the #growthmindset which I foster. (Big Life Lesson Here.)
Sure, my back injury threw me off my regular exercise journey, as exercise is vital to me - it keeps me sane, sober, energized, and, most importantly - happy. No boxing, no running, no weights - all the things that Ms.K loves to do became a big fat #no. (For now.) I couldn't wrap my head around the fact that OTHER types of exercises existed and that I could be doing all those things I adore - LATER. JUST NOT RIGHT NOW.
Has this ever happened to any of you? You get into this weird feedback loop, when in reality you know that nothing is permanent?! (Besides death of course.)
The main thing I learned is that nothing is permanent and we always have a choice.
First Thought
Healing is based on repetition. We often forget how many times we have reacted blindly in the past and how that accumulates in our minds to reinforce specific behavior patterns. Undoing a lifetime of reactions is possible but requires focus and intentional effort. When you genuinely make it a goal to transform, it is only a matter of time until you start seeing results. Of course, you want to apply action to your attempts but be gentle with yourself. Letting go of unwanted habits and building new ones will ask you to dig deep into gentleness and patience. Trust me - not only this injury, but my addiction has taught me that embracing patience for myself and the world is how the universe wants everything to be. #trusttheprocess
You will not get it right every time, but eventually, you will apply
enough calm and compassionate effort to make your new way of living second nature. I needed to walk more and do yoga and pilates instead of intense cardio. Now, was this a deliberate choice? NO. But I am grateful for this slowdown as it teaches me many valuable lessons - many I am only starting to realize, now.
Second Thought
With just a small amount of partial information, the mind can develop a grand story driven by reason and tension. It is easy for the mind to weave narratives that make you agitated when you are tired or feeling less than optimal. A dense pattern of fear in your subconscious can make you see threats where there are none. The mind is wired for defensiveness which makes it challenging not to make assumptions. Fortunately, even profoundly rooted habits can be undone. The key is that when you are staying in tune with your emotions by being able to feel when they are agitated, you are already building on awareness which is what I touched on last time - and this is the first step.
Next, awareness can help you slow down when you are about to launch into baseless assumptions. If you are aware that you are moving into an agitated state of mind, you can use this as a sign to suspend the formation of beliefs and remind yourself that you are safe. The most precise assessments come when you feel grounded.
Tip of the Week: Inhale from the abdomen for 3-4 minutes, comfortably seated. Have an I AM affirmation and inhale deeply. #IAMABUNDANT
What is a centering exercise that makes you feel calm and grounded? XOXO, Ms.K
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